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[–]ArchangelleTheRapist 145 points146 points ago

I said, " It saddens me that you feel that way. Thank you for the three wonderful years."

Then I packed my shit and left.

[–]safetravels 33 points34 points ago

You didn't ask why? You just walked out on a wonderful three year relationship? It couldn't have been that wonderful if not being legally bound was a dealbreaker. What's the story here?

edit: just read your reply to suplerfly, you're as immature as I suspected. Your idea of relationships is wholly unrealistic, impractical and unlikely to achieve what you want it to anyway. I doubt things will work out for you unless you change your approach.

[–]SUPLERFLY 51 points52 points ago

I might be drunkenly jumping the gun here, but that seems oddly immature.

[–]ArchangelleTheRapist -2 points-1 points ago

It had been three years, of which, we had been living together for 2 years and 10 months. From my perspective, her saying no was indicative of a breakdown in communication so pervasive that, at that point, there was no relationship. Also, it wasn't a, "not now" or, "I'm not ready," just a flat no.

I told her from the start that I was in it to win it, that I would only ever ask her once and that she could end the relationship at any time by telling me that she didn't want to marry me.

[–]CarolineTurpentine 17 points18 points ago

It sounds like to both jumped the gun with the relationship. How old were you?

Your last sentence is immature. You can't make plans like that and expect it to work out in your favour. If her not being ready for marriage at the same time as you was a deal breaker you weren't really in love.

[–]MrGestore 6 points7 points ago

That is just some immature shit, man... Maybe I have not enough evidences, but from what you wrote it appears so.

[–]SuperSmashBrother 0 points1 point ago

Such a fool.

[–]lurkingmuffin 10 points11 points ago

Why does it seem like marriage proposals become a literal game of "Deal or No Deal" ... There's probably something seriously wrong with the relationship if you want to marry the person one minute and then the next you're packing your bags.

[–]BumDarts 12 points13 points ago

personally, i wound't wanna marry a rapist either

[–]treecko4ubers 2 points3 points ago

Just like that? Was it a "No, I'm not ready" or a "No, I don't see you as someone I could marry"?

[–]Freckleears 0 points1 point ago

I wasn't proposed to but I lived with ex and her family for four months and they were adamant that her and I were perfect and should start a family. We were going out for 2.5 years and lived together for 2.

I got the fuck out of Dodge. I wasn't ready for that.

And I meant persistent. At least 3 times a week one of the family members would say something about marriage or a family.

[–]manimal7 0 points1 point ago

I would like to think this is the way is react but I'd wish I could stay together like so many of the other comments above.

[–]caroline_ 0 points1 point ago

:(

[–]Blackstream 0 points1 point ago

I'm going to have to back everyone else up here, that's on you. If you really had 3 wonderful years, yet you proposed clearly without discussing the idea of marriage with her first, you're the one who fucked up here. I'm not even saying you shouldn't have proposed (although you probably shouldn't have), but it's your fault for not talking it over with her first that she said no, and for YOU to be the the one to end the relationship cold like that is fairly heartless.

[–]I_SLEEP_PLENTIFULLY 0 points1 point ago

Jesus christ, people are getting WAY too butthurt over this. I really don't see how people find this 'immature'. I hope things are going well for you now man.

[–]brielem -3 points-2 points ago

classy, but sad way to handle it.

[–]Meta-Shadow -4 points-3 points ago

I get the feeling that you are one tough motherfucker. Good luck in life fellow space traveler.